Love

Love is a funny thing, maybe because love is something that is a little bit different to every person. I am not going to claim to be an authority on love, because certainly I am not one. I have always felt that we learn about love from those around us and from what we feel deep down inside. Love is a tricky thing and many other things can disguise themselves as love. Yes I have been in love and it was a painful experience that I would not trade for anything in the world. That experience taught me what love should and shouldn't be. My parents have been a great example of how it isn't just about love, there is so much more than that. Love will not carry you through the hard times. It is knowing that person through and through, and knowing that no matter what that person will be there to walk through it with you. Now love is the foundation which everything is built. But it is through love that you will want to grow and change together even though you might grow and change in different ways. Now I know that some people may be reading this saying that I have no idea what I am talking about because I am not married nor am I currently in a committed relationship. But I have been stumbling through the whole dating thing for awhile so I do have some idea.

My mother told me on more than one occasion that I love too much or too hard some might say. I must say that I agree, I love everyone in my life that I am close with and along comes with that high expectations. With high expectations there is no where to go but to be let down. I am not saying that my friends let me down because that is not the case, what I am saying is that I break easily. I am much more fragile than I let on, I reserve a lot of those moments for behind close doors. Having been the strong one for so long it is hard to let people down in that area. My mother was also right about every single person i dated, there is something to be said for what your parents or family have to say about the person you are dating. i am not saying they are the finally authority, but sometimes parents just know. My dad often says I need someone who is not afraid to tell me to shut up, because as you can see from my blog I talk a little too much. Doesn't my father sound so encouraging haha he is great and hilarious!

As a girl though I have had to over come the romantic comedy idea of love. I mean don't get me wrong I love a good rom com but they are terrible for setting the bar to high for men. There is no way some guy is going to be able to fulfill everything that a rom com sets up in our minds, it is terribly wrong. Relationships are not all warm and fuzzy. There are arguments and misunderstandings but to me it is the knowing that you can get past it because that person is your best friend. To me at least I feel there needs to be some level of this person is my best friend. The person that you feel that you can tell everything and won't judge you and maybe will just chuckle at your misfortune a little. Lets be honest we all need a little laughter and I of all people need someone who will laugh at my misfortunes because they get pretty hysterical.

How do you know if you have been in love, well it is something that you can't really describe. If ever asked the question have you been in love, it is a yes or no answer if you have to think about it then well it wasn't love. Love isn't always instant, sometimes love blooms from something years in the making. That does not mean I don't believe in love in first sight some people certainly find this. In my mind when you get to know someone is when you can start loving them when you get to know what their favorite things are or what annoys you about them. It's the little things to me that love comes from. It's being able to tell when someone has had a bad day or to just go and give that person a hug because words are not needed. For me it is not asking the person I am with to give up the things they love. You want to go do something or go to the movies with the boys well then go and do it have a good time.

Some of my friends have found their matches and I am thrilled for them it is great to see that light in their eyes or to listen to them talk about that person. One of my very good friends is getting married this weekend in Florida and I am terribly upset that I am going to miss it. She is a person that I just clicked with instantly and we just understood one another. She is my LL and I wish her and her future hubby to be all the love in the world!

Love is hard work but it is fun to stumble through it with that one person!

I know I was a tad sappy and cynical but recents events with people close to me have forced me to sit down and really think about what love is to me and what I want out of love not only for myself but from anyone that I am dating.

Till Next Time!
Meg