Friends

Happy Monday everyone! As happy as a monday can possibly be or in my case sleepy. So I have a plethora of things running around in my head today which will probably lead to multiple postings today so tighten your belt buckle cause we are going to go for a ride. So the first topic I have I have decided to start with is friends.

What the!? is the statement that is probably coming to your mind right now and trust me I often get that feeling when things just pop into my mind. Friends we all have them, some are better than others but I like to think with my friends I have got some great ones! I know cocky statement right?? The reason I say this is because I don't have throngs of friends, I believe in quality over quantity! And to steal from one of my favorite authors Lisa Scottoline; a best friend is just another name for accessory after the fact!

Over the past two years my friends have surprised me in how well they know me. My friends, those sneaky bastards seem to be able to read me like a book! I love that because I can say things without saying them or just turn my head to one side and someone can instantly know where I am going with that. It can be rather disturbing for someone to watch this because it is like our own secret language. My friends will often tell you if you really want to know what I am thinking just look at my face and you will get your answer. I often respond to this statement with lots of cringing or hiding behind my hands. This general results in someone pulling my hands away or laughing and pointing. It's amazing I don't have a complex! Not to digress but you are probably wondering where I am going with all of this aren't you! Well I am getting to my point I promise, it just takes me a minute!

An ways onwards and upwards. I think the key thing to a friendship is knowing all about someone and at the end of the day still loving that person for everything that they are! I and love that about my friends they know me from my head to my toes, put up with my insane amount of bullshit, and still love me.

Friendship is about knowing when to give a hug before the before they ask for it, knowing when to come over after a bad day before they ask you to bring the wine and commiserate. You may be thinking well that isn't a friend that is a best friend. Well I like to think of all of my friends as my best friends. With my friends there isn't one thing that makes one better than the other. Granted each person is a little different in what they bring to the friendship but they are all best in their own way!

What is a common thread among all of them is that they know I wear my heart on my sleeve, I do not know how to love parts of people, I love them completely and with most of my friends I loved them instantly. But each person in my life knows this about me and can be fiercely protective and understanding. That is what I love the most having people I can count on at the end of the day. My friends are my family outside of the little nucleus that is my actual family, and I wouldn't trade them for anything.

Who said water wasn't thicker than blood because I am pretty sure in my case it is just as strong.


Till next time!
Meg

Relationships

Over the past month of so I have had various friends ask for my advice on relationships. While I am no guru on relationships and trust me I do not claim to be! I do not mind putting my two cents in, as some of you may know I like to talk or ramble as you can tell for my writing style. But on to the point I am trying to make. Many of these friends ask me how do you know a relationship is working or heading in the right direction.

Well of course there is no guarantee that a relationship is heading in the right direction. There are in my mind 4 questions that will give you an idea if there is good base to build a relationship where you can feel a connection with your significant other.
1. Do I respect and admire this person?
2. Do I trust this person?
3. Do I feel safe with this person?
4. Do I feel at calm and peace with this person?

Now you might think these are pretty general and won't give much of an answer but if you can answer these with a yes then the relationship is worth exploring a little bit further because it is on the base of these questions that you can build. Not all things in a relationship are felt immediately so times think time to build and grow depending on the circumstances. Being honest and open with is the key, really share anything and everything. I am not sure I can stress that enough that you need to talk and share the hard stuff, the stupid stuff, and the silly stuff it is in those things that you can figure someone out.

You might ask where I get these pearls of wisdom? From my family of course! My mother and I had lengthy discussions on relationships in general and her relationship with my dad. Also since my father is now single he and I will chat on the subject about what makes a relationship and how to grow one. Of course I do not always listen and insist on just doing as I please but the older I get the more I know there was a truth to what they were/are telling me and its time I shut up and admit that I do not know best! Which is hard for me, I can admit that I am wrong but it comes with a lot of teeth gritting. However, my inability to want to listen to others is a whole other blog post and topic one that I am not sure I will ever get to!

Have a great weekend!
Megs